Friday, 13 October 2006


So much change... everything seems to be changing and evolving.
Friendships change, grow, consolidate and evolve.
Children grow (against all odds) - one 11 year old girl can skip a size in 2 months.
Same kid can love a meal i prepared a week ago and hate it today.
Communication lines seem to evolve into something new and need to be re navigated to make oneself understood.
Although its still illegal to lock children in cupboards.
Change is inevitable - i heard once that the only thing that is constant in the world is change.
Why do we cling so hard to what needs to be changed. Once the change is made then usually the reaction from most people is 'wow, this is heaps better' although the same person staunchly resisted in the first place.
It is really easy to say 'go with the flow', in reality it is much harder. For although something may not be serving us, sometimes we feel 'better the devil you know'.
To be 'the fool' and just step off into the unknown takes a lot of courage. Even changes that seem to be positive changes sometimes take a bit of getting used to.
I even find that some people around me (or one in particular) have trouble accepting when i make positive changes in my life, get resentful and 'poor me'. Try to lay on the guilt trip.
One change that i am struggling to deal with is my 14yo daughter who wanting to spread her wings, understandably, and start to experience more of life - like going to the beach with her friends, no adults. She only asked for the first time these holidays and as there was quite a large group of them going, i let her go. I have to say i was very happy to see her walking up to the car in the afternoon when i went to pick her up.
I know there will be many more 'firsts' for her in the months and years to come. I will just have to trust her and allow her to grow and evolve.

"I used to say, 'I sure hope things will change.'

Then I learned that the only way things are going

to change for me is when I change." -- Jim Rohn

"What the caterpillar calls the end,

the rest of the world calls a butterfly." -- Lao Tzu

So i will just keep going, putting one foot in front of the other, no matter the inclination of the path. If change is happening or inevitable, i will endeavor to go with the flow. But ultimately, my ability to deal with change is directly influenced by my previous 'performance'.

I am not sure where all that came from - only that i really needed to write it. It has helped to clear my mind and clarify things for me and maybe someone else will get something out of it as well.


Cyndy said...

Sometimes we are worried that if we go with the flow, we might drown...
There are many more "firsts" ahead, but without them, there can't be a "second, third or fourth"; these are what we call "life"...;) xoxox

Kathleen said...

Nothing changes and still remains the same, life is about "growing" ... it's amazing - life ... we are bound by periods of rest and movement, perhaps "change" really means "evolving"?

Your Quote reminds me of Chuang Tzu's Butterfly dream and his question "Was I before a man who dreamt about being a butterfly or am I now a butterfly who dreams of being a man?"

It's been a profound day today!

Anchell said...

You darling, are a butterfly would that you could only see it......
life is all about taking baby steps, one after the other and then realising you have in fact passed the place that you were aiming for....and that the the destination wasn't even what it was all about, it was the journey.
Feel the fear and do it anyway....

Romy said... all must have swallowed 'deep' pills!!!I think there must be a lot of inner searching going's a nice place to visit but always remember where the front door is sweetie!It's easy to get lost deep inside yourself....

Elizabeth said...

wonderful writing dear jen- i too have been a bit introspective of late- lots of poetry & the is hot & kids do grow- i just wish they could grow in the loungeroom not on some camping ground in the middle of nowhere...........
Mary Me x