Wednesday, 3 October 2007

Oh dear......

Well here i am.... looking down a road that I never wanted to look down.

I have been to the doctor today and gotten a prescription for ADHD medication for my Freak Of Nature. I have always been TOTALLY against drugging children. Once I started working Admin in schools though i had to change my mind a little. There DEFINITELY are children without drugs who would be absolutely impossible to give the little amount of education that they are getting. Kira is DEFINITELY not in this category. She has always been able to achieve highly whatever she sets her mind to.

We have faced increasing problems this year, her first year in high school. I have had four letters and two phone calls from the school, all telling the same story. Disruptive, loud, talkative, disrespectful, unable to settle, not working, blah blah blah.

We figured out that the break between classes actually didn't give her a chance to blow off steam. It actually wound her up, to the point that her last two classes of the day were a total write off. She would be completely off her head.

We have worked on her diet. I don't buy many things with preservatives and colourings anyway. I just made sure she had breakfast, which she had been skipping, and more fresh food. Healthier snacks. It has made a small improvement. But still, basically, she is still in trouble several times a day at school and detention a few times per week.

In primary school, the recipe for 'dealing with Kira' has always been passed down from teacher to teacher, and she has always been given the strong teacher. Now at high school, without continuity and continually yip-yar ing between classes, it is all falling apart.

I found this list on the net about children with ADHD. It says they must have 8 or more traits to be considered to have this affliction. She has 19. The only one that she isn't, is the learning difficulties one, although if she keeps going how she is now, she will certainly crash academically.


If Eight or more of the following statements accurately describe

your child or yourself as a child,

there may be reason to suspect ADHD. A definitive diagnosis

requires further examination.

1. Often fidgets or squirms in set.

2. Has difficulty remaining seated.

3. Is easily distracted.

4. Has difficulty awaiting turn in groups.

5. Often blurts out answers to questions.

6. Has difficulty following instructions.

7. Has difficulty sustaining attention to tasks. Distractibility.

8. Often shifts from one uncompleted activity to another.

9. Has difficulty playing quietly.

10. Often talks excessively.

11. Often interrupts or intrudes on others.

12. Often does not seem to listen.

13. Often loses things necessary for tasks. Lacks organizational skills.

14. Often engages in physically dangerous activities without considering consequence

15. Impulsive.

16. Destructive

17. Hyperactive

18. Mood changes quickly and drastically

19. Learning difficulties

20. Cognitive fatigue


I have really thought long and hard about this. At this point I don't really see another option. I need to trial this, to see if it helps her because if she reaches the end of her schooling and is uneducated then it will by my fault too.

Part of me is really ripped to pieces over this. Part of me is hopeful for the future. I just want this to work for her sake. I know that she will be able to reach for the stars in her life if she wants to, this may just give her the chance......


Tell me i have done the right thing.......................... please....


Rider-Waite said...

You have done what is right for your family and for you. You don't need us to justify anything you do. If it wasn't the "right" thing to do, you would not have done it. The hardest step is often the first one, and you have done it. Anyone that condones what you have done, has not been in your shoes.


Bee said...

yes you do what feels right for your daughter and the rest of family,my eldest son had all of the above,and i beleive still does.we can only do what we think is best for our children,so hope it works out allright,and dont beat yourself up over it.xxxxxxx

Kathleen said...

Hard to know what to say, though I agree with Rider-Waite.

Love to you Jen

Anchell said...

Darling jen, if you didnt know it was right, somewhere inside, then you wouldnt be doing it. That child needs some help, for all your sakes. So, try it. It may just save your sanity and hers.
You do what you gotta do...
lots of love xxx

Lisa said...

ofcourse you are doing the right thing- for all of you.
she is screaming for help here and you are providing it. dont beat yourself up, instead move to grattiude that there are medications avaialble to help kids like Kira.. watch the difference it makes jennofur, and then you will know you have doen the right x

Kristy-Lee said...

You know you are doing the right thing. I think there would be guilt either way by the sounds of things. Trust that you are acting in her best interests.

Thinking of you.